Pros and Cons of both
When you picture your wedding day, does standing in front of your family and friends professing your own personal, hand written vows seem exciting or utterly terrifying? To some, speaking in front of such a large crowd, let alone creating personal, meaningful vows can be a huge stressor, yet to others, this can be their dream come true. Traditional vows are straightforward and to the point, removing the pressure and stress of crafting the vows yourself, but this does not mean they are for everyone.
So which would you rather seal your love with? Personal custom vows or the traditional ones we all know and love? Let’s look at the pros and cons of each!
Traditional
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| If neither of you are winning the “best writer” award, this may make both of you feel much more comfortable. | Not as personal so may not be as fitting to your individual relationship. |
| If tradition or religious meaning is important to you and your spouse, the traditional vows will uphold both. | Some couples may find the traditional vows boring and their guests may not pay as much attention as they have heard them many times before. |
| Less stress- they’re already done for you! | No surprises. You know for certain exactly what your partner will say. |
| You can keep the bulk of the traditional vows and just make small edits here and there to make them feel more ‘you’. | You don’t have to worry if guests will understand your inside messages or jokes. |
Write Your Own
Pros —————————————————————————————————Cons
| If you are really wanting everyone to pay attention, this will keep them hanging onto every word! | Public speaking is not everyone’s cup of tea- and adding to the stress of public speaking with having to create your own vows may not be the best idea for such an important day. |
| Your vows will sound more modern. Did you know the “For better, for worse…” vows date back to as long ago as 1549?! | Some officiants may not approve of personal vows, so the couple may need to ask for permission or approval. |
| You can use your personal vows as a keepsake to be displayed and passed down for generations to come. | Not everyone is comfortable with saying their feelings out loud. |
| You can see this as another way to bond throughout the wedding process. Use the time writing your vows to truly think about what it is that you love so much about your partner. | You and your partner may have different styles- one may go more of a comical route, while the other is more sincere. |
Be sure to communicate your expectations of the vows so no one is disappointed if one person includes a lot of jokes, but the other is more serious. If your partner is not fully convinced they want to recite their own writing in front of all, consider writing a love letter to each other and reading it to one another before the ceremony and reciting the traditional vows to lower stress levels.
At the end of the day, whatever route you and your partner go, I can assure you all of us will be in the back crying tears of joy.
Cheers,
Kayley
Associate Wedding Coordinator | Content Creator
Kayley Russell
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